Quick answer
Caregiver burnout is physical, emotional and mental exhaustion from caring for someone over time. Signs include constant tiredness, poor sleep, irritability, withdrawing from friends, getting sick more often, and feeling hopeless or resentful. Relief can come from respite care, adult day care, paid help at home, sharing tasks with family, and support groups through your Area Agency on Aging or the Alzheimer's Association (800-272-3900). If you feel you might harm yourself or the person you care for, get help right away by calling or texting 988. (800) 614-8388 to talk through getting more help.
Warning signs
- Exhaustion that sleep doesn't fix.
- Irritability, anger or tearfulness.
- Pulling away from friends and things you enjoyed.
- Getting sick more often; skipping your own care.
- Feeling hopeless, trapped or resentful.
- Drinking more or relying on sleep aids.
Why it happens
- Caring is constant, with little time off.
- Needs grow over time, especially with dementia.
- Caregivers often juggle jobs and families.
- Many don't ask for help, or don't know where.
Ways to get relief
- Respite care: short stays or in-home breaks. See respite care.
- Adult day care a few days a week. See adult day care.
- Paid help at home for bathing, meals or nights. See in-home care.
- Share tasks with siblings and friends; be specific when you ask.
- Support groups for caregivers, in person or online.
- Family caregiver programs through your Area Agency on Aging, which can offer counseling, training and respite.
Look after your own health
- Keep your own doctor visits.
- Move a little every day.
- Protect sleep where you can.
- Talk to someone: a friend, counselor or faith leader.
When it may be time for more care
If you're running on empty and your parent's needs keep growing, more help at home, assisted living or memory care can protect both of you.
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Questions families ask
What are the signs of caregiver burnout?
Exhaustion, irritability, withdrawing, getting sick more, and feeling hopeless or resentful.
How do I get a break from caregiving?
Respite care, adult day care, paid help at home, and help from family.
Where can caregivers find support?
Your Area Agency on Aging, the Alzheimer's Association helpline (800-272-3900), and caregiver support groups.
Is it okay to move a parent to assisted living because I'm burned out?
Yes. Getting more help can be the best thing for you both.